I AM NO INTROVERT

Hey you all beautiful minds out there

Trust your week has gone on well

Mine went well, until now.

And Thank God it's Friday

There is an immeasurable desire in most human souls to feel incognito, unloved and unappreciated.

Feeling like somehow along the way the soul lost its grip on life and slid off to another unknown place, probably planet!

Do you ever sit and feel so empty? Like everything you are doing right now is an immense time waste, or a simple stupid version of garbage? Does it occur to you sometime like you are making so many mistakes and it’s just you in the world making them?

Sometime I do get some of these deep emotions and pretty so many times wish the universe would come, offer me beautiful scented carnations from the comfort of my bed.

So many of my friends think I should let go of life, get real, and just let the pieces fall into place. They probably would describe me as an extrovert, but am lost because on such days when I feel so empty, I would stay locked up all day, with my phone for company, right inside my blankets. So I probably think, maybe I am an introvert too. But I do not exactly hate socializing, and it’s overly difficult to keep my mouth shut on most days.

The difference between an extrovert and an introvert?

An introvert uses so much energy to do something that an extrovert will just blurt out or type in a jiffy.

An extrovert will tell anyone who cares to listen everything and anything that comes to their mind immediately. And will share whatever crap that is in their head, or heart with anyone and will feel so free and fulfilled well after that. And I am this kind of person.

An introvert is the kind of person who would prefer to stay indoors and read a book. Or probably would feel okay going through an entire series with just a large bowl of popcorn as company compared to going out and dancing the night away at big parties and engaging in some risky behavior. Same thing. I am this kind of person.

Yet once in a while I want to go to a party or an open park or a music dome and meet people, and just sneak away after a few minutes or hours. That makes me extrovert.

Many people want to victimize others who just want themselves as company. We do not dislike people; we just think we have had so much of others we want to now focus on us. We just want one best friend, five or seven good friends and about fifteen acquaintances. We have seen and done so much through our teenage years that we feel like our life now needs us so much now. We have made mistakes, we have extroverted our adolescence and childhood, our young adulthood just needs some self. We wish we could have the world and still do so much good that the heavens write us a thank you note.

We do not hate socializing. We just don't want to do it too much.

We are not extroverts, we are not introverts either.

WE ARE SANGUINES.

Mwende

Buy electronic items in city stalls at your own risk

Many Kenyans including me would run to town or any stall near them when they want to buy an item due to the open price that allows bargaining which am forced to think is in Kenyans blood.
Now even the vendors know that and will always state a price of an item and remind you “hio ni bei ya kuongea” (that's bargaining price).

JUST HOW MUCH POWER DO STORIES AND WORDS HOLD?

 Growing up, storytelling was an unquenchable thirst that I had. My dad being the liberal minded Kenyan man, made it his personal goal to make sure that his youngest daughter got her daily dose of "old cat and mouse- hare and lion" stories.

Growing up in the village was probably the best of the things that ever happened to me. I never had to travel to grandma's for 'the stories'. I mean, grandma was just a few walks across the yard away. And grandma had friends who could bring the tales to my radius on demand.

Local celebrities speak out on cyber-bullying

When news broke that a 19-year-old committed suicide after being sexually abused and bullied by her Facebook lover, the country was outraged. Cyber bullying had claimed yet another victim. NEWSPOT254 takes a close look at local celebrities who have gone through it and spoken out.

It takes a different kind of courage to stand tall in the face of malicious, targeted and constant criticism, and not many can claim to have it. From abusive text messages to personal insults on Twitter and Facebook,
cyber-bullying is on the rise. The latest victim? Nineteen-year-old Mercy Bundi.
We live in a culture of digital cruelty that no one is immune to. Whether you are a celebrity, the child of a public figure or the common mwananchi. Anyone can be a target.
However, celebrities are usually on the receiving end of vicious cyber bullying. And while some of them bury their heads in the sand and wait for it to blow over, others speak up. And like some of these celebrities, we should also take a stand.
Juliana Kanyomozi
Losing a loved one, more so a child is one the most heartbreaking experience anyone can go through
but many people did not think of this while attacking the beautiful songstress as she was mourning her son
last year. Instead of sympathising with the Ugandan songbird, social media users tore her down even more
by insulting and calling her offensive names.
Adelle Onyango
The radio presenter is no stranger to cyber bullying making her develop quite the thick skin. Sometime back, a social media user compared her to a monkey. Adelle used the opportunity to encourage others who might be going through the same. Posting the photoshopped meme showing the rude and insulting juxtaposition
of a monkey next to her, Adelle had this to say: “Bumped into this in my mentions. Ever since my first stint
with cyber bullying and being involved in the Inua Dada campaign handling bullying and its effects, I have done a lot of reading on it. Seeing the number of suicides linked to bullying broke my heart. Your memes/tweets etc could be the last nail in someone’s coffin…you ready to live with that? And #teamadelle y’all are young people some of whom are being bullied now…it is not a reflection of your character
or your beauty - no. But a reflection of the bully’s damaged character! I hope these words do something for you! Keep smiling!”
We hoped we’d heard the last of this tale, but another cyber bully targeted the presenter. Adelle confronted her saying that “she does not subscribe to her definition of beauty.”
Larry Madowo
The TV personality is no stranger to cyber bullets. He has been attacked mercilessly on countless occasions
on social media. Outrageous memes of the presenter have circulated online punctuated by disturbing captions.
Having had his fair share of online abuse and humiliation, Larry penned an unapologetic tell off article directed to online bullies. “Anybody who engages in cyberbullying is really just trying to cover up their own feelings of inadequacy and disillusionment with life,” he wrote in the September 2014 article.
Linda Nyangweso
After a photo of the bubbly radio presenter found its way to Twitter, a section of Kenyans on Twitter saw this as the perfect opportunity to attack the presenter over her weight. Here’s what she said; “OMG.Woke up this morning to realise people have discovered my secret: I’M FAT!!*#brushshoulder*#whatsnew
#livingmylifelikeitsgolde! LOL”
Linda went ahead to add that her “being a big girl isn’t exactly news let alone Kenya’s best kept secret.”
Janet Mbugua
The screen siren was trolled for being on screen while pregnant. The news anchor was bewildered when
she found herself in the midst of an Internet storm. One guy sent her a vicious tweet aimed at gnawing the sassy presenter’s self esteem. He tweeted , “Just wondering why Janet Mbugua must newscast in that condition. Never seen it before on Kenyan TV but I think it’s gross.”
Being human, Janet was rattled by the comment and cited being hurt. “I had sat in my car and was about
to turn on the ignition but the tweet stopped me dead in my tracks. I usually pay no mind to people trolling
me, that will always be there, but this was an insult to every expectant mother and I was deeply offended by
his ignorance, bullying and insensitivity…” she wrote on a blog post.
Janet was not to take this one sitting, so she slammed the trolls while simultaneously receiving outpouring support from a legion of social media followers.

TIP OF THE DAY

If you disagree with someone, try listening, not arguing
We often try to persuade others through argument. But arguing does not change minds — if anything, it makes people more intransigent. It turns out that listening is far more persuasive than speaking.
When you are silent you can better pick up on what is not being said — cues that signal how someone is feeling (Is the person upset about something and that is why he is not willing to hear you out right now?) and help you figure out how to respond. Because words can so often get in the way, silence can help you make these connections.
Next time you disagree with others, put your opinions away and try just listening.
Let them speak into the silence and listen for the truth behind their words.
Then acknowledge what you have heard (which is, most likely, more than has been said) and, once the others feel seen and heard, offer your view.

Dealing with vomiting in early pregnancy

For some, nausea and vomiting is the initial indication of an unplanned pregnancy. It’s usually caused by rising levels of a particular hormone. Luckily, the hormone levels tend to taper off as the pregnancy advances.

Time flies, and so you must learn how to manage it, here are a few tips

By the time as a woman you are raising a family it feels like the number of hats you wear is growing exponentially. Then add to that the never ending conversation about whether women can have it all or work-life balance and it positively gets muddied up.

Is it 'Sinema' or Real Development Agenda in Machakos

When you visit Machakos county today, you will note a difference from any other county in the country.

You will notice that you are in a different government immediately you divert the Mombasa road at Makutano 'Chumvi'. Good looking and a welcoming environment with flowers, sitting bays, free and clean toilets and to ensure your security a police patrol vehicle parked by the road side.

Opinion: Mutua in a political 'Island'

Of late Machakos county Governor Dr Alfred Mutua have not been seen or heard in any event or political event unlike before.

Since when he was elected Mutua has enjoyed airplay and praise for his development projects in the county which saw the county be announced numbered one in the country by research institutions.

This was not all as Mutua rubbished claims of a plan to impeach him from the Wiper party for what they termed as disloyalty for working closely with the govt of the day which saw president Uhuru Kenyatta visit Machakos county two time in three years of service.