The good thing is, this is a world. And the beauty of it? It’s
not just you that makes up the world. We all have problems. And trust me; you
do not want to listen to a lot of some other people’s problems. The thing to do
is not letting it get into your head. And it is not easy. Not letting things
that have crushed you get into your head.
So what to do?
1.
Cry, break something, scream under your pillow,
or better still find a lonely spot in the hills and shout it out to the skies.
Whatever you do, just find a way that works
for you and let it out of your system. Crying does it for me, perfectly! But
someone else would feel better strangling her bear under the pillow, or hugging
it tight till it hurts. Do not slash your wrist though, I mean, just be safe!!
After a mistake is done, when the pain is
fresh, when you done trying to mend the pieces, and you are sure they won‘t
stick back together any time soon, get it out of your system.
2.
Appreciate that the past happened.
Sometime back, my very trusted friend who
at some point I would have wanted to have the honor of calling a “special male
friend” disappointed me, big time. I was ok, yea. But who am I kidding, I was
broken! And I had this burning desire to tarnish his image, go yell to the
world,” this idiot broke my heart.” But one thing I appreciated, is that
however much I felt hurt at this moment, I had good memories, lessons learnt,
steps made into the positive future from my encounter with this person. And
that was enough!
The past has happened, and at some point,
it brought a smile to your face. So appreciate it. Do not burn bridges. You
might need to use them, someday!
3.
Focus on you
So you were born, ALONE. Somewhere along
the way, you picked people up. The thing is, those who were meant to be in your
life at this moment, still are. The work you were expected to have finished by
this point in your life, it’s done. Your purpose in someone’s life or their
purpose in yours, as set by God, is accomplished. So however lame it looks or
sounds to you, it’s done. FINITO.
So do you.
Focus on doing things that help you be a
better you. Lose the extra weight, read books, use your savings and think of an
alternative source of income, go out, talk it out, eat well. Do yoga. Write. Be
Strange. Just focus on you for a moment.
A better you will always attract a better
next!
4.
Wondering what to do next? Hold on! They always
come back, and time always makes things better. Always!
In years, months, weeks, probably days,
things will get lighter. Time just has its own way of standardizing events. Do
not hurry anything. The pain will fade away, the feeling of worthlessness? It
will go. You will get so attached and excited about yourself, you will wonder
why you got crushed in the first place.
Everyone likes associating with someone
that has a relationship with themselves before they can even start setting the
circles around them.
Time heals all wounds, and they always come
back.
While you wait,
keep making you good for yourself!
I trust these help you through
this. I know because it’s worked almost every time. Including with me.
All the best while you heal from
the mistakes, learn and move on. So long.
Have a lovely Tuesday
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